The heartbreaking true story of the gay teen and his dad behind ‘Joe Bell’
In April 2013, Joe Bell left his house in La Grande, a small city in the northeast nook of Oregon, to stroll throughout the nation in honor of his 15-year-old son, Jadin, who had died in February a number of weeks after making an attempt suicide.
Bell and his spouse, Lola Lathrop, instructed native and nationwide information shops at the time that Jadin was bullied for being gay, each on-line and at college. After his son’s demise in a hospital in Portland, Oregon, Bell and household buddies began Faces for Change, an anti-bullying group. He deliberate to stroll throughout the nation to New York City — the place Jadin had talked about dwelling — and converse to college students, faculty directors and others about the results of bullying.
Six months into his deliberate two-year journey by foot, nevertheless, Bell was struck and killed by a tractor-trailer on U.S. 40, a two-lane freeway in japanese Colorado.
The household’s tragic story impressed “Joe Bell,” a film debuting Friday starring Mark Wahlberg as Bell, Connie Britton as Lathrop and Reid Miller as Jadin.
The true story behind the movie is sophisticated, and “Joe Bell” makes an attempt to painting the real-life nuances. Miller, 21, stated that whereas Bell accepted his son, he didn’t actually perceive him, and he struggled to assist him.
Bell instructed the outlet Salon after Jadin’s demise that he felt considerably answerable for not doing extra to assist his son and famous that he had yelled at Jadin for smoking the night time earlier than he tried to kill himself.
The grieving father’s stroll, and one of the main themes of the film, is about redemption, Miller stated.
“I think Joe learned a lot about himself, and I feel like his legacy is that anyone can change … and that through love and through understanding, everyone can be given a second chance,” he stated. The movie “is about redemption and about coming back from a place that is not an easy place to be in, but it’s a place that you can still come out of nonetheless with love and the right people around you.”
‘A very special human being’
Jadin stood out in his small city of about 13,000. He was the solely out gay scholar at La Grande High School. He instructed his father that he needed to maneuver to New York City in the future to check vogue or pictures, based on The New York Times.
Jadin’s older brother, Dustin, instructed NBC News that he was “a very special human being.”
“I feel like no matter where he was or what room he walked into, he just lit it up,” Dustin stated. “He was just very outgoing and just very much himself.”
Dustin, 32, says one reminiscence he has of Jadin is from February 2008, the day earlier than the older sibling shipped out to the navy. The Bell household had a Super Bowl get together to watch the New York Giants play the New England Patriots, who have been closely favored to win.
“My brother used to love teasing me,” Dustin stated. “He’s very antagonistic, and because he was the younger child, he always got his way.”
During the fourth quarter, Jadin was enjoying with the distant, “and I kept telling him to ‘set down the remote, set down the remote,’ and he never did,” he recalled.
Then, Jadin dropped the distant. The TV turned off, and the batteries fell out of the distant. By the time they turned it again on, Dustin stated, they missed the final minute and a half of the recreation, throughout which the Giants got here again and gained in what is taken into account one of the biggest upsets in sports activities historical past.
Jadin regarded shocked and rapidly ran away, he added.
Then, in February 2013, on the day Jadin died, Dustin stated his favourite workforce, the San Francisco 49ers, have been enjoying in the Super Bowl. During that recreation, the lights in New Orleans’ Mercedes-Benz Superdome went out a couple of minutes after the Baltimore Ravens took the lead.
“That’s one of my favorite stories,” Dustin stated. “I was like, ‘it’s just my brother messing with me again.’”
Both Dustin and Miller stated Jadin was by no means shy about being himself. In addition to being the solely out gay scholar at his faculty, he was additionally the solely boy on the cheerleading squad, and Bell instructed Salon in 2013 that he was bullied for it.
Miller stated he might relate to Jadin and his story, as a result of he was additionally bullied rising up in Texas. He was an artist “living in a place where it was either sports — football — or nothing,” and he was smaller than most individuals his age.
“It really resonated with me because, as someone who grew up in a small town who felt very misunderstood and … unheard by friends and people outside of my family, [it] felt very isolating and very alienating,” he stated.
Reid Miller in a scene from “Joe Bell.”Quantrell D. Colbert / Roadside Attractions
In order to arrange for the function, Miller stated he listened to Jadin’s iPod and spoke to his household and buddies. He met Jadin’s mom whereas he was carrying her son’s clothes.
“Even though he was in this amount of pain and he felt so alone, he was so strong in what he believed in and who he was, and that had such an impact on everyone around him and to everyone that I’ve talked to,” Miller stated.
Dustin stated he thought Miller did an unbelievable job capturing the essence of his brother in “Joe Bell.” He stated the grieving course of for his household is “continual,” and he hopes that the film reaches an viewers which may not normally take into consideration these points.
“I just hope that it influences people to be more open minded and not judgmental and more accepting of people from different walks of life,” he stated.
Lathrop launched an announcement to the La Grande School District forward of the movie, writing that “not everything on the screen occurred in real life.”
“But that misses the important message,” she stated in the assertion. “I hope that the message this movie sends will make us all more vigilant, and inclined to safeguard the well-being of young people who deserve the opportunity to thrive.”
‘I do know that you simply’re with me on this stroll’
Bell instructed Salon in 2013 that he and Jadin went to the faculty about the bullying, however he stated that the faculty didn’t droop one of the major bullies till three weeks after Jadin’s demise, and solely after the scholar began bullying another person.
The La Grande School District has not responded to a request for remark concerning that incident, however in response to the film’s upcoming launch, the district issued an in-depth assertion about the sources it gives to college students who’re in disaster and LGBTQ college students in search of assist, equivalent to counseling.
“Our district’s commitment is to ensure we have a positive and inclusive school experience in which all students can thrive academically within an affirming school community,” half of the district’s assertion learn. “Furthermore, it is our responsibility as professionals to provide a safe and caring setting for every student.”
In addition, a La Grande senior began the faculty’s first membership for LGBTQ college students in the spring of 2013, only a few months after Jadin’s demise.
Jadin’s demise was one of a number of suicides amongst LGBTQ younger those who made nationwide information round that point. On Sept. 19, 2010, Seth Walsh, a gay 13-year-old dwelling in Southern California, died by suicide after being bullied. Three days later, Tyler Clementi, a gay scholar at Rutgers University-New Brunswick, killed himself after being recorded on a webcam kissing one other man. Two extra teenagers, 14-year-old Kenneth Weishuhn and 17-year previous Josh Pacheco additionally died by suicide in related circumstances.
Bell resigned from his job and started his stroll in April 2013. He documented his journey on Facebook, the place he wrote in May 2013, “I miss my son Jadin with all my heart and soul … I know that you’re with me on this walk.”
After Bell died, folks took up his trigger for him, sharing images of themselves on Facebook on walks in his honor and to share his message.
Since then, extra faculties have adopted anti-bullying insurance policies and higher assist techniques for LGBTQ college students, with some states codifying the protections in regulation. At least 21 states have legal guidelines that prohibit bullying on the foundation of sexual orientation and gender id, based on the Movement Advancement Project, a nonprofit LGBTQ assume tank. The remaining states prohibit bullying on the foundation of sexual orientation solely, have district-specific insurance policies or don’t have any regulation in any respect.
Bell additionally needed faculties to supply suicide prevention coaching for all counselors. As of 2021, about half of the states mandate annual suicide prevention coaching for college personnel, based on the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention.
Anthony Ramos, head of expertise at GLAAD, an LGBTQ advocacy group, stated the Bells’ story is a vital one for folks to see and perceive.
“Given that the film is lead by such a high-profile, big budget movie star and that it is now available to people in theatres, there is a real potential for many to have their eyes opened to the disproportionate amount of bullying and harassment that so many LGBTQ youth endure and to also witness a parent’s road to acceptance for their own child, and deep regret for not doing so sooner,” Ramos stated in an emailed assertion to NBC News.
Nearly 70 p.c of college students have reported experiencing verbal harassment at college primarily based on their sexual orientation, and greater than half stated they skilled this sort of harassment primarily based on their gender expression (57 p.c) or gender id (54 p.c), based on GLSEN, which advocates for LGBTQ college students. Almost half of college students additionally reported experiencing digital harassment in 2019 through textual content messages or postings on Facebook, often known as cyberbullying.
Miller stated he additionally hopes all dad and mom educate their kids that phrases are highly effective.
“Whether they’re said or whether they’re typed, words can be devastating, or they can be lifesaving,” he stated. “People need to understand that words have weight and are really powerful and can profoundly damage someone beyond repair.”
A 2019 survey from the Trevor Project, an LGBTQ youth suicide prevention nonprofit group, discovered that youth who’ve at the least one accepting grownup of their life have been 40 p.c much less prone to report a suicide try in the previous yr.
LGBTQ youth who’re going through battles much like Jadin’s, Miller stated, ought to know that “there are people who love and fight every day for them.”
“The fight is always still on and there will always be support, and hopefully one day we get to a place where we don’t have to fight that fight anymore, where everyone can feel free to be whoever, whatever they want,” he stated.